Today makes 435 days of blissful marriage to the most wonderful man in the world. The day I walked down the aisle and vowed to love the hubs forever, I was the happiest girl. I had lots of plans to be the perfect wife…and first on the list was to hyphenate my new last name…I was ready to go from Miss to Mrs. and make it official with my new moniker. Except, 435 days later, I shamefully admit I have taken very few steps towards this goal. So what gives? Why has this process been so taxing and what’s really in a name anyhow?
The name-changing decision comes loaded with touchy factors. Family expectations, cultural traditions, and professional reputation are only a few of these complex determinants. In most homes, this can be quite a sensitive issue and emotions tend to run high. We all know guys can be very territorial. Take a male dog: to show he is the alpha and owns it all, he will ritually pee on everything he desires to deem his… While your hubby may not be resorting to such Neanderthal-measures, this sense of ownership, belonging and territorial perspective may just be something he is craving.
For me, it was never a question of whether I was going to keep, change or add-on the hub’s name. Having quite a unique maiden name, it was a bit difficult to bid it adieu…moreover, as a teacher, my surname is a big part of who I am. Along those lines, I was also torn because my Poppa was a huge determining factor. I’ve always been a daddy’s girl and my last name was a direct link to him. Yet, I very much craved to be united with Javy…I was his and he was mine…and taking his last name was the perfect representation of that. So I thought of the ideal comprise…Hyphenating.
On our honeymoon, I remember that incredible feeling the first time I was called Mrs. Garcia. I loved every minute of it…It was perfect. I was his and that felt really great. Immediately after our nuptials, I began referring to myself with my new hyphened last name…yet I hadn’t made it legal. For those of you who have shared a spot in this predicament of mine, you know that for starters, the process of changing your name is tedious and über time consuming. It was something that I kept putting on the back burner until now…I gave myself a goal…my birthday. I promised the hubs to have all the needed documentation completed and filled out to make my new status official.
I started with the Social Security office…Thanks to MissNowMrs.com I was able to have a pretty detailed game plan and as part of the hub’s Valentine’s gift, I sent out the first name-change request. So here’s to the future…I’m excited to being one step closer to officially being Mrs. Garcia…even if I am 435 days late!
Blissful Lovin’ Friends,
Mrs. Nicki Garcia